Why do Break Up men with woman

Why do Break Up men with woman

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However, in regards to steady daters, an article I was given at the library said that even those who “went steady” in the ’50s and ’60s didn’t always expect their steady dating to end in marriage. Interestingly enough, just like modern times, either the guy OR the girl would break things off—though “going steady” was sometimes seen as “practice marriage.”

Question for Couples to ask each other guys and girls would often give each other tokens of exclusivity, such as a ring, a jacket, etc. Even in my high school days this happened, and the early 1990s just before the days of the Internet, I would see my female classmates wearing their boyfriends’ class rings. One girl wore her boyfriend’s leather jacket, and he was from another school. And if the couples broke up, the rings, jackets and other tokens of once-pronounced fidelity were returned to their owners. Unfortunately, I was not only left out from getting girlfriends in those days (this was mostly by choice), I was also not included in the gabfests that my classmates had. Therefore, I was not privy to the reasons why the boys broke up with the girls, or vice versa.

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Given that those were the high school years, I suspect in the 1950s & 1960s that many breakups, especially if initiated by the boys, had everything to do with one person moving away to another state with their parents or even going off to college. They didn’t want their then-girlfriends to have to worry about “following” them, or something along those lines. It was rare for the couple to sign up for the same college because they really had a thing going and wanted to keep it going.

Smart Women Need Not Apply

On the other hand, speaking of college, my mom said that another very likely reason for men breaking up with women in her day was due to the idea that women shouldn’t be seen as “too smart.” If a woman dared show that she had a brain, men would either not date her or if they had been dating her and she opened her mouth with an intelligent comeback about something, she’d be single faster than you could say “librarian glasses.” I don’t know about you, but that sounds a little too much like a Jane Austen novel for my tastes.

She said that there were girls who would go around bumping into things because they were afraid that if they wore their glasses, they wouldn’t be approached by guys. Ouch, ouch, and triple-ouch, right?

Contrast that with modern times where geek is uber-chic for both men and women, and geeky girls with glasses are seen as sexy and approachable. Both my cousins, one of whom just tied the knot, wear glasses. And they are both geeky as anything.

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And we all chorus with “Neo” from “The Matrix:”

“Whoa.”

Yeah. “Whoa” is right.

Marriage in the 1950s and 1960s definitely isn’t what it is today. Back then, people were still pretty practical in a strangely Darwinian way: looking at economic—and genetic–reasons for marriage rather than soul mates, hearts and flowers. Yup, it was just about money and passing on the family DNA.

It was without today’s modern, egalitarian talk of actual mutual cooperation of how to spend finances and raise the kids.

Personally, I like modern discussions of mutual cooperation. It just seems fairer and more “Arthurian-round-table” to me. It’s all due to that all-important shift in the late ’60s and early ‘70s that embraced individual self-fulfillment, and encouraged more people to think in terms of emotional fulfillment when it comes to marriage, not just nickels, dimes and insurance policies. And come on—which is more fun to talk about: love or money? I bet the answer is not the Benjamins in your stock portfolio.

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